disclaimer: this may or may not be a rant

Every time I come home from school for a weekend, I’ll undoubtedly hear dozens of comments like, “When are you going to bring a man home?” “Have you found that special someone yet?” “Any romance in the near future?” I was even asked by an older man when I was going to get my “MRS” degree. YALL. First off,  I am nineteen years old. I just moved away from my family. I don’t have a job. I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do with my life. I can’t even take care of a pet fish, let alone a boyfriend. Second, I am not paying thousands of dollars to get a guy. I’m paying thousands of dollars to get an education in a field that interests me. I came to college to learn, to grow, to make new friends. If God decides to make a boy a part of my life, great. But right now, that’s not what I’m looking for. I am completely content: my worth is not determined by the number of boys I bring home. I do not need a ring by spring to feel like I’ve accomplished what I came to college to do. Don’t get me wrong, boyfriends are great, but they are not what gives us value. It’s time to move past the old mindset that women are nothing without men, and realize that we are valuable, not because of the diamond on our hand, but because we have been declared so by the Lord. We are so so precious in His sight and He loves us infinitely! So next time you feel unworthy or undesirable because you can’t answer yes to the questions asked about your love life, seek the truth: if you know the Lord, you are His daughter, He loves you, and He finds you altogether beautiful. There is nothing more valuable than you.

2 Thoughts to “Why You Shouldn’t Ask Me If I Have a Boyfriend”

  1. I totally understand what you’re going through. I love being a Christian and a part of the Church, but I feel like we are sometimes a bit behind the curve in this kind of thing. I don’t know if that’s always a bad thing either, but it does get old trying to explain to people that you’re not actually pursuing marriage at this moment in time. It’s like people expect that marriage ought to and will forever be at the forefront of your mind. I think that’s a singularly unhealthy way to live, though, so props to you!

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